‘My marriage is a sham – our relationship is built on lies’

“We’ve been together about three years,” Andy shared to Reddit. “While we were engaged, about 14 months ago, we hit a rough patch.”

Andy clarified: “Essentially, we had a fight and she left me. The reason that she gave was that I was selfish… and I didn’t prioritise her.”

He spent months trying to figure out exactly where he went wrong and what he could do better before reaching out to Josie to reconnect.

Initially, she refused to speak to him, but she soon came around and the pair resumed their engagement.

“In the process of getting back together she mentioned that she had slept with someone while we were broken up,” shared Andy.

“I had as well (one-night stand deal)… and I asked her if she had cheated during the relationship. She said no. I said I hadn’t either. We get married.”

Andy added: “A few months ago, it ends up accidentally coming out that she had started an emotional affair with a coworker the month prior to leaving me…

“And that she had left me for him… the [real] reason for our breakup.”

Taking in the new information, Andy emphasised: “After a few months [with him] she decided she wanted to be with me still.”

What stands out to Andy is that Josie didn’t mention any of this when they were getting back together “at all”.

Andy disclosed: “In recent conversation about this situation, I asked why she lied when I asked if she had cheated in the relationship.

“She said that she thought I just meant ‘physically’ so didn’t mention it.”

While Josie has apologised profusely since the revelation, Andy now feels as though he has been lied to.

“I’m struggling here,” Andy admitted. “I feel lied to… it feels like the entire marriage is a sham because I never got the whole story.”

He pleaded to the Reddit community, “any advice on how you all would handle this”, to which the Reddit community jumped on.

One user enquired: “How do you ever trust someone who allowed the marriage itself to be built upon a lie?”

Another said: “Did you guys seriously break up, get back together, then get married six months later? You have to realise how monumentally stupid that is, right?”